Monday, 9 January 2012

Anger

From a blogging perspective, anger has a lot of potential. Many books have been written on it, hence one could write many blogs on it. Due to the fact that I'm lazy and I'd rather not bore you all to death with another incoherent rant of biblical proportions I've chosen to focus on one particular aspect of it.

Ergo, a question:

Is anger of benefit to you on the golf course? 

Case 1:

Let's take John (not his real name). He'd been having a terrible time with his driver for weeks, so one day he decided to leave it at home and vowed that the longest club he'd hit at the course the next today would be a 4 iron. He'd been hitting the 4 iron reasonably well so it seemed like a sensible decision. He plays golf with his buddies the next day and has an absolute nightmare. He's slicing and shanking every other shot and his 4,5 and 6 iron are as unreliable as his driver was. One the 14th tee, he hits a hosel rocket a into the bushes and in a moment of sheer rage, uses all his might to hurl his 4 iron up, up and away into the air and towards a pine tree. 

And in the pine tree it stays. 
About 20 feet up. 

I wonder if his sudden outburst of anger benefited him thereafter?
Did he manage to retrieve his 4 iron?
What was the effect of his behaviour on his playing partners?

Case 2: 

Jim is a tidy golfer, he plays off a 9 handicap and is usually pretty steady. Jim believes that a little bit of controlled aggression is good for him. He's a Taurus and very proud of the fact. Sometimes he feels a requirement to pay homage to the 'bull' within. Oh, and he secretly thinks that other people find his brief outbursts cool. Occasionally when Jim is playing, he hits a bad shot, gets a bad bounce or misses a 1 footer. Years of experience have led him to conclude that the best way to get such an episode out of his system is to  'self scold'. So he mumbles / shouts (depending on the situation and any extenuating circumstances) calling himself a 'stupid f**king ****' and walks to the next tee, relieved that he's avoided letting that one mishap affect his whole round by getting it out of his system. 

Oh the relief that he feels, it's so liberating. 

Does Jim's behaviour say anything about him as a person?
Again, what was the effect of his self directed ourburst on his playing partners?
Could you imagine Luke Donald or one of the top tour Pro's missing a one foot putt, only for his caddy to call him a 'stupid f**king ****?'


Case 3:

Jack has had his fair share of ups and downs on the golf course. He was once like John and Jim. Lately he's decided to eliminate anger completely from his golf game. Not only that, he's also decided to stop getting over excited when things go his way. His motto is 'whether I get a horrible bounce or an eagle, my reaction to the situation will not affect my next shot.' He's trying to maintain balance and composure throughout the game. It's a straight line of emotion rather than an up, down zig zaggy one.

I don't have any questions about Jack, I like playing with him though.
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I can't really comment on John, Jim or Jack any further but I'll give you something from my own experience. I used to be a hothead on the golf course but I've improved a lot. I'm no angel, there's still work to do.

A few months ago I played a round of golf with a guy I didn't know. He was having a terrible round. He completely lost it, started throwing clubs and swearing at the top of his voice. I'm not going to lie, I felt a little unsettled and intimidated even though he was angry with himself and not me.

The one enduring question I had in my mind after the round that day was: 'I was very uncomfortable when that guy lost his head on the course. Is that how I used to make other people feel when I used to lose my temper?'


Ergo, a question:

Is anger of benefit to you on the golf course? 

See you around my friends! :)